When we talk about dating or the possibility of having family, with a man or on our own or with—gasp!—a coven of like-minded women (why not?), the conversation is framed entirely by the fact that we can count on our native countries to look after us should we—for whatever reason—not be able to make ends meet stateside.
Aww, isn't that cute? They're so independent and skilled and learned and it doesn't matter if they blow it because the Nanny State will take money away from other people and use it to take care of them. And they think women here should demand the same.
One of the more annoying things about this(aside from, if it's so damn wonderful back in the EU and Canada, why are they here?) is this:
We have Ivy League degrees, speak multiple languages, are savvy and entrepreneurial.
To borrow from Indigo, I do not think that word means what you think it means.