Which connects somewhat with this and some of the linked posts; which boil down to "Men can't think like women, so you have to make allowances for the poor dears." For instance,
Oh, we can process it; and we know it's often a booby trap to get us to say something not 'right' that can then be used to beat us over the head with. Or,
Ref the first thing in this post, they had to do a study? Years back, when one of daughter's friends had been bitching about 'guys staring at me', etc., I told daughter "Well, if 'X' doesn't like the attention, why's she wearing a skirt that ends just below her crotch, and/or a top open to the waist and no bra? She damn well knows that makes guys look, and if she says it bothers her she's lying; otherwise she wouldn't dress that way."
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Great title.. you should get some hits from that! hahhaha :)
1: Oh, we can process it; and we know it's often a booby trap to get us to say something not 'right' that can then be used to beat us over the head with. ( Exactly, no matter what answer you give you can't win)
For example. "Does this make me look fat?" ( try answering that other than with "Do you like it?")and see the repercussions.
2: Yeah. Right. Sure. Single-minded cavemen, that's us. Incapable of handling multiple things unless they're v e r y s i m p l e. ( well she has a point, we need food and good loving and no manicures ;) )
Hm. I guess I'm defective, then. I'm a woman and I can't multitask worth damn, I can't even read a book if there is music on at the same time. Not even fluffy type of novels.
I can, however, write while listening to music, if we are talking about fiction and the music fits what I'm writing - like maybe something by Rammstein for an action scene, something like Adagio in G minor for a moody one.
My experience after 67 years in this vale of tears is that multi-taskers are like that fascinating el-supremo el-cheapo do it all tool from the standing pasteboard display just inside the door of the sporting goods store. It does damn near everything you can think of, but it doesn't do anything well enough to justify the price. Even if the price is only 98 cents.
I suppose that the multitasking thing for women mostly comes back to kids, and it does exist, to some extent anyway. Small children do need near constant supervision, so if - during most of our existence - mom intended to get anything else done during those years she'd have to be able to do it while still keeping one ear listening to what the kids are up to right now. While she probably wasn't able to do to that something else as well as she'd do it if she was able to concentrate on it fully, it was still better than not doing it at all.
But probably better not to do it that way if you don't absolutely have to, because most likely you will just end up doing several things sort of adequately, or badly, instead of doing one thing well.
Most multitasking is bullshit, and usually shows an unfocused mind. Usually what happens is that multitaskers do a whole bunch of things all half-assed, rather than just concentrating on one thing at a time and doing it right.
Back when I was a dispatcher, I got to the point I could handle a radio call or two, a phone call or two and someone standing there talking and keep them straight; it took a couple of years to reach that point, if anything else popped up you lost at least one of the others from the order, and it could be stressful as hell.
And you wound up doing that because there was only you to handle the radio and terminal and four phone lines. Usually you could make it work, but damn.
About Firehand's last paragraph, the issue isn't that women don't want to attract stares - it's that they only want the *hunks* to stare.
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